Week 4 Blog Assignment

Communication Experience:

This week’s assignment had me to think long and hard about how effective are my communications skills. My daughter and I scored the almost the same in communication anxiety inventory and verbal aggression. My daughter says that I’m a good listener at times, but I have a tendency to rudely interrupt her as she speaks; of course I do not recall. I did score moderate in the verbal aggressive section; which means I attack the problem but not the person. This too me is not healthy because the word ‘attack’ sounds so bullying. I never want anyone to feel that their conversation or character for that matter is being attack. Having and building healthy relationships with my family, colleagues, children and their families are important to me, and in doing so effective communication is imperative.

In this case it is important to how others see me as a communicator. I’m in a career to help change, make a difference in the lives of children, and effective communication is the key in doing so. I have had many people to tell me that I’m a good listener and theory enjoy talking to me in regards to their problems; whereas this is where I did well on the assessment. I’m empathetic and concerned about the needs of others, which can cause me to have poor judgment, definitely me all the way.

Example: I can talk with a person and automatically give them the benefit of the doubt by trusting them, without even getting to know them on a personal level. I’m too trust worthy, which is not good because I’m putting myself in uncompromising situation that may cause improper judgment, and this is not healthy.

Public Speaking is another technique I need to inquire when working with children and families. My passion is to help fight children living in poverty; therefore, I may need to address many issues on a state, local and even international level. Public speaking to me is one of my greatest fears; a fear that I’m willing to take on to better myself and future career in the early childhood field.  

Effective communication can be rewarding in your professional as well as personal life. When you can communicate to other’s in a normal and sensibly manner than your communication style is effective. I believe effective communication is a life time commitment and forever needs to be enhanced; for as long as we live, work, interact, and meet people, we have to learn how to communicate with others.      

Week 3 Blog Assignment

Think about the cultural diversity you see in your colleagues at school, in your neighborhood, in your workplace, and also, possibly, within your family.

When I think about cultural diversity with my colleagues at school, neighborhood, workplace, and within your family; I can say that we share some of the same values.

*My colleagues are striving for higher education to enhance their lives and career.

*My neighborhood is diverse and most of us are working class families.  

*My co-workers are educators who support education to better the lives of children and families.

*My family is my cultural; we share the same norms, values and beliefs.

Consider all the aspects that make up culture, including race, religion, political affiliation, sexual orientation, varying abilities, and so on.

Do you find yourself communicating differently with people from different groups and cultures?

In all honesty, I would have to admit that there are times I have communicated differently with other groups and cultural. I believe when people have different values, ideas, thoughts, feelings about certain beliefs than you will have different views points. I also believe that we have to respect others and their beliefs; whether we agree or disagree.     

If yes, in what ways do you communicate differently?

I have a co-worker who does not believe in Christ; whereas I do. She has made degrading remarks about the bible, religion, churches and etc. I feel she does not have to value or share the same beliefs as myself, but at least be respectful of my views. We have been working together for three years now so things between she and I have gotten better, but I’m still mindful of our conversations and viewpoints. In other words I chose not to speak to her about any of my personal thoughts, opinions, and beliefs

Based on what you have learned this week, share at least three strategies you could use to help you communicate more effectively with the people or groups you have identified

This week topic was based on the “Platinum Rule” and my theory of the platinum rule is to treat other’s in the way you want to be treated.

Strategies

1. Always be respectful of other cultural and their beliefs.  

2. Never judge or become bias of other’s.

3. Allow the person you are communicating with a chance to speak and be heard, and agree to disagree.

Week 2 Assignment 2

Learning about communication skills and styles

Volume down

The television episode that I watched was “Dallas,” even though it has been many years since the show has aired, and I was not a big fan than; it was interesting to see some of the same cast members now that played on the show years ago. I turned the volume down while watching the seen about JR and Bobby discussing a matter. It was so obvious that they were into a heated conversation just by the way both character’s facial expression and body language. I know when the show aired years ago, both brothers did not get along, but characters change with time.

I sense that both parties are in a disagreement while portraying anger and hostility through nonverbal communication.

Volume up

When I turned the volume up, JR and Bobby was in a very heated conversation about JR going over Bobbies head to dig oil on the family land, which Bobby was not agreeing with this at all. Bobby was very upset about this matter and JR was very cold towards him in regards to his feelings.

I do believe I would have been aware of what the characters were discussing in the episodes that I was familiar with; reason being, I’m usually aware of the characters demeanors in the episodes that I watch and most of the time I can tell what is going on in the episode due to their facial expression and body language.

    

Competent Communication

For this week's blog assignment had me to think long and hard about someone who has competent communication skills. I have met many people in my life that demonstrates positive and effective communication, but competent; where the person is clear from beginning to end is quite hard. But because we are able to use a politician for an example, I would have to say President Obama. He's has a tendency to speak very well and keep me engaged as to what he has to say next, that’s how effective his communication skills are and should be.

President Obama is someone I would like to model my own personal communication behavior after of, reason being; if I can catch an audience attention and keep them focus for a long period of time and their just as engaged at the end of my speak as they were at the beginning than I know that my communication skills is effective.

Interdependence is what I set forth when communicating with others.

Interdependence means that what we do affects others and what others do affects us (O’Hair, Wiemann, 2009 p.6). We have to build our lives around affective communicators and implement that from ourselves to others as well.

       Resource

        

        

       O’Hair, D., & Wiemann, M. (2009). Real communication: An introduction. New York: Bedford/St. Martin’s.

        

Chapter 1, “Communication: Essential Human Behavior” (p. 26)

Professional Hopes and Dreams

One hope that I have when I think about working with diverse children and families is forever be compassionate to their needs. Always making sure I represent a diverse classroom at all times; so that children’s cultural are welcomed and embraced.

One goal that I would like to set for the early childhood field related to issues of diversity, equity, and social justice is doing my part to introduce children to a nonbiased classroom and teach them the importance of love, respect, kindness and empathy for others.   

To all my fellow colleagues, it has really been a pleasure reading your blogs and corresponding to one another discussion questions. I have learned from you and most of you all have inspired me during this course. It’s even clearer to me as to why my passion is so eager to grow during this educational journey. It is colleagues like you that challenge and encourage me to pursue my career in early childhood education. I wish each one of you nothing but the best during your journey at Walden and in your career.

                       

Best Regards

Carrie Bell

Welcoming Families From Around the World

The name of “your” family’s country of origin

The name of my family country origin would be "Mexico"

At least five ways in which you will prepare yourself to be culturally responsive towards this family

1. I would first make sure I learn as much as I can about their cultural.

2. Understanding the cultural values of this country, so that I would be prepared and equipped to help met the needs of the families I come in contact with.

3.  It would be imperative to making sure I’m bias free towards anything that may not be the norm for me.

4.  Demonstrate to children and their families that I’m willing to do whatever it takes to implement fairness and equality.

5. Just making sure, that I make myself available to the families at all times.

  

A brief statement describing in what ways you hope that these preparations will benefit both you and the family

These preparations will benefit my career as early childhood educator in learning how to work with children of Hispanic cultural backgrounds. And hopefully the cultural group that I come in contact with will learn from me; the benefits of being equal and presenting justice.

The Personal Side of Bias, Prejudice, and Oppression

The Personal Side of Bias, Prejudice, and Oppression

In what way(s) did the specific bias, prejudice and/or oppression in that incident diminish equity?

I can remember like it was yesterday, my daughter’s was joining Girl Scouts for the first time. She was about ten years old and she was so excited about starting Girl Scouts. The meeting took place in Hopkins, MN at a community center. My daughter and I walked in the room and you would have thought we were the president of the U.S., the room became completely silent. It was no warm welcomes or hello, how are you doing? My child looked at me and said, “Mom is we in the right room?” I was just speechless, because of the rudeness we encountered from all of the adults present. Not one parent came up to use, nor did they speak even after I said hello. It was like my child and I did not even exist to them. I have experience quite of few episodes of biasness, prejudice and some form of oppressions, but never did I think my child would be subjected to this type of treatment at her age. We were the only people of color in the room, maybe out of ten to fifteen Mothers and daughters. I could sense my child was not comfortable; therefore, I excused us out of that environment. That incident was very disturbing not only to me, but my child. She had to endure such negative behavior from these women, and their children. I actually feel sorry for the children; for the parents are setting them up for self-destruction. Any time a child is being raised to see race before the person, than they are headed for a rude awakening in life.

     

In what way(s) did the specific bias, prejudice and/or oppression in that incident diminish equity?

These women surely showed the true definition of biasness, prejudice and oppression by their actions. I guess by making me and my child feel uncomfortable was their way of showing us that we was not welcome. And what makes this incident so terribly sad; this was a “Girl Scout” meeting. Girl Scouts of America do not, under any circumstances tolerate racial discrimination or any form for that matter. The message that these parents are sending to their children that do not share the same cultural background as themselves, is to treat other’s indifferent, which in the long run will come back to haunt them; for one day these girls will be adults in life and will have to work with and around people of other cultural backgrounds, and my question is, “What will they do then?”  

What feelings did this incident bring up for you?

As I have stated before, I have been subjected to biasness, prejudice, and even oppression at some point in time in my life, but for my daughter to have had to endure such a negative incident as such was quite devastating. I know that I can’t save my child from situations such as that one, but being it was a Girl Scout meeting really showed the beliefs of what certain people value, and compassion, and character was not one of them.

 

What and/or who would have to change in order to turn this incident into an opportunity for greater equity?

With this particular incident taking place, I end up contacting Girl Scouts of America local office, and they were very apologetic for what had happen. They sent my daughter and me three free tickets to Valley fair, a loco fair in MN. The representative also gave me information to other location in the area for my child to join. She did explain that she would contact the Girl Scout leader over that area to resolve this issue. As she explained, it is the responsibility of the Girl Scout Leader’s to make each girl feel welcome. Hopefully, after this incident something positive came out of it for the next girl and her family of African American race.